Monday, September 30, 2013

Lately, I've spent a lot of time with all three kids on the issue of respect and kindness. The deal is, we live in  a hyper-sexualized society, and buying into the mindset that one's appearance is the most important aspect of their being is devastating. Obviously, life becomes narrow and flat.

I feel overwhelmed sometimes at the daily barrage of sexualized images that my kids face. It's insidious! It's everywhere! This week, I told my mother in law to stop giving my daughter  teen-magazines. They have nothing to offer, except New ways to judge oneself against Photoshopped images of anorexic models. (How is it that just one generation separates us, but we are WORLDS APART?)  It's hurtful for my son, too. I want him to see people as beings, not just bodies. 

Before kids, this was about equality. Now it's more. Dignity. Love. Vulnerability. Humanity.



Sunday, September 29, 2013


We must be exceedingly careful not to project our own shadows too shamelessly; we are still swamped with projected illusions. If you imagine someone who is brave enough to withdraw all his projections, then you get an individual who is conscious of a pretty thick Shadow. Such a man has saddled himself with new problems and conflicts. He has become a serious problem to himself, as he is now unable to say that they do this or that, theyare wrong, and they must be fought against. He lives in the “House of the Gathering.” Such a man knows that whatever is wrong in the world is in himself, and if he only learns to deal with his own Shadow he has done something real for the world. He has succeeded in shouldering at least an infinitesimal part of the gigantic, unsolved social problems of our day. These problems are mostly so difficult because they are poisoned by mutual projections. How can anyone see straight when he does not even see himself and the darkness he unconsciously carries with him into all dealings? CW 11: Psychology and Religion: par 140, pg 83

The masculinity of the woman and the femininity of the man are inferior, and it is regrettable that the full value of their personalities should be contaminated by something that is less valuable. On the other hand, the Shadow belongs to the wholeness of the personality: the strong man must somewhere be weak, somewhere the clever man must be stupid, otherwise he is too good to be true and falls back on pose and bluff. Is it not an old truth that woman loves the weaknesses of the strong man more than his strength, and the stupidity of the clever man more than his cleverness? CW l0: Civilization in Transition: par 261, pg 127

Logically the opposite of love is hate, and of Eros, Phobos, (fear); but psychologically it is the will to power. Where love reigns, there is no will to power; and where the will to power is paramount, love is lacking. The one is but the shadow of the other. CW7: Two Essays on Analytical Psychology: 78, pg 52








Jung wrote "There is no light without shadow and no psychic wholeness without imperfection. To round itself out, life calls not for perfection, but for completeness; and for this the 'thorn in the flesh' is needed, the suffering of defects without which there is no progress and no ascent." ..." The fundamental error persists in the public that there are definite 'answers', 'solutions', or views which need only be uttered in order to spread the necessary light. But the most beautiful truth--as history has shown a thousand times over--is no use at all unless it has become the innermost experience and possession of the individual. Every unequivocal, so called 'clear' answer always remains stuck in the head, but only very rarely does it penetrate to the heart. The needful thing is not to know the truth, but to experience it. Not to have an intellectual conception of things, but to find our way to the inner, perhaps wordless, irrational experience--that is the great problem. Nothing is more fruitless than talking of how things must be or should be and nothing is more important than finding the way to these far-off goals."

Friday, September 27, 2013




Was there ever a time when you felt certain?

Do you miss it?

Wednesday, September 11, 2013





Sometimes I get very still on the inside, and it is wonderful.